Authentic, long lasting change requires us to get comfortable with, as they say, the discomfort. Just as the people who colonized the US enacted the oppression that had been done to them by the powers that be in Europe, you will enact the harm that mirrors the harm done to you if you don’t learn how to slow down and hold your broken heart.

My, what a long time it’s been. I’ve been underground for these past six months or so. Off of here for much longer. Around March or April of this year, the reality of where I was internally-so very tired, uninspired, creatively burnt out-caught up with me. I had started my first full time job at […]

The most healing experiences are usually the most vulnerable.

This is how you live without them: a poem.

Becoming myself.
Inhabiting this body.
Inviting it to soften, slow down, take up space.

All of it brings me closer to her, both her presence and her absence.

moving grief is the act of moving towards the grief you carry in your body. It’s an internal process of slowing down, tuning into your grief and what sensations are present in your body, and letting that move you intuitively. The goal is not necessarily to feel better, though this often does happen. The goal is to allow the grief you carry in your body to metabolize, process and integrate into the fabric of who we are.

However you choose to engage with your grief is in fact an active choice we make, whether or not it feels like it.

Real healing, meaning the healing that we need, crave and desire is usually not cute.

Anger is a close cousin of grief, and they are often directly linked up our bodies.

Today, I put on the dress I wore to mama’s memorial service for the first time since the day I tried it on nearly four years ago.